As the back-to-school season approaches, it’s normal to feel a mix of excitement and anxiety—especially when your child has special needs. You may worry about how they’ll adjust to new routines, interact with peers, and whether their needs will be fully supported in the classroom. These concerns are completely valid, but with the right preparation, support, and perspective you and your child can navigate this transition successfully.

Managing Anxiety and Setting Up Supports

Before school begins, reach out to the school to ensure that any necessary supports, such as an IEP (Individualized Education Plan), 504 Plan, or building level supports are in place. Communicate openly with your child’s teachers, special education staff, and therapists to clarify expectations and share insights about your child’s strengths, challenges, and special needs.

Request regular check-ins during the first few weeks of school to ease your concerns and monitor how your child is adjusting. These early conversations with the school team can help you stay informed and advocate for your child as needed.

Talking to Your Child About the Transition

Your child may also have worries about starting a new school year. Talk to them in an age-appropriate way about what to expect. Walk them through their new daily routine, visit the school or playground ahead of time, and use visual aids like a schedule or social story to help them feel more confident about what’s to come.

Reassure your child that it’s okay to feel nervous and that you’re there to support them every step of the way. Help them express their feelings through words, pictures, or gestures if they struggle to communicate how they’re feeling. Take time to validate their feelings.

Give It Time

As much as we’d like things to fall into place quickly, adjusting to a new school year takes time. The first few weeks may be overwhelming for both you and your child, but it’s important to allow time for routines to settle in. If you have developmental or academic concerns, try waiting a few weeks to see how your child adapts. Sometimes, children need space to adjust before we can accurately assess their needs in a new environment.

A Final Note of Encouragement

I know how overwhelming it can feel to send your child with special needs back to school, but you’re not alone in this. No matter how much you prepare for back-to-school, there will always be some anxiety when facing something new—that’s completely normal. It's a sign of future growth! Feeling and embracing the discomfort is part of the process for both you and your child. Just getting started each morning is a powerful step. Even on challenging days, taking that initial leap to school sets the tone, giving you and your child the momentum to keep moving forward and building on small victories throughout the day.